A Little R&R

I was unsure how vacationing with two children, one husband, and two parents would go. I'm sure they were all concerned about vacationing with an emotional and sleep-deprived Mari as well. Things went exceptionally well. I could not have asked for more relaxation, more fun, more quality time--more anything. It was TERRIFIC, as Eleanor would say.


Instead of gushing too much, I'll share a few shots for the memory books blog. It's worth noting we saw several instances of dangerous marine life during our stay. The stingrays were out and about on their annual mating tour. We saw dozens of them early in the morning and late in the evening. But, on the third day they vanished. I'm not sure where they went, but I wish them well. On the day the stingrays disappeared, we saw not just one, but TWO sharks. Yes, I'm positive they were sharks. The second shark cleared the water, and everyone on the beach made a big spectacle of following him down the coast. They weren't big sharks, but yikes! A few jellyfish also made an appearance, but they seem less noteworthy after the stingrays and sharks.

I'm already planning and anticipating our return to the beach next year!

Look closely. Can you spots the stingrays? 

Eleanor was too excited to hold still for mom to snap a pic.

Our little sand queen. What a trooper!

Our castle by the sea.

Another turning point...

....a fork stuck in the road  
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go 
So make the best of this test and don't ask why  
It's not a question but a lesson learned in time
 
It's something unpredictable but in the end is right 
I hope you had the time of your life

Good Riddance by Green Day 

I love Green Day. This song always makes me nostalgic, and nostalgia seemed to be the theme of my weekend as I prepared for and celebrated my 10-year reunion with classmates. The Bolivar High School class of 2003 reunited for a fun evening of visiting and laughter. The atmosphere was casual and the wine flowed. I had a GREAT time, and I hope everyone else did, too.

 

I know I'm fortunate to have fond high school memories. Not everyone does, and for that, I'm sorry. It's easy to look back and see that we weren't as grown up as we thought we were. It's also easy to see that so many of moved on and grown up. I enjoyed visiting with people I didn't know well in high school. I really hope it's not another 10 years before I see these people again.

 

No, we didn't meet in high school, but I couldn't leave him at home!

If I had my scanner handy, I'd share a very similar picture that was taken ten years ago. We have all changed a lot in ten years, but we're still good friends. I love these ladies with all my heart. (Emily, me, Kendra, Lindsey)

 

 I didn't go to high school with Katie, either, BUT she married someone I went to high school and she was at my wedding (which makes it really easy to know how long we've been friends). She helped arranged this great event, and I think she's pretty neat, too.

 

Classmates + significant others

 

A little perspective

I'm a little behind in the blogging department--story of my life. Although I'm nearly two weeks late on mentioning anything at all, I didn't want to let my first Mother's Day as a mom of two go unmentioned.

This year was the first year Eleanor could really participate in Mother's Day. She signed cards for her grandmas and she was adamant that she and Jon make me breakfast in bed.  She told me she loved me a dozen times. It was all very sweet.

I get the perspective of writing this days after the devastating Oklahoma tornadoes. I got to hug my children on Mother's Day, and those Mom's did, too. But some of them won't get to next year, and that breaks my heart. After having kids, I feel like I'm part of the Moms Club. Moms have a connection with other mothers everywhere. We all say we can't imagine the pain those mothers are going through, but we can imagine it, and that's what makes it so real. So vivid. So devastating. Maybe I can't feel the entirety of their pain (because I don't want to pretend I know what they're going through), but I can imagine losing my girls. I try not to imagine it, though.

I know we all hugged our families a little closer this week after such a tragedy.

Today, I am heartbroken for the mothers without their babies, for the babies without their mothers, and for the families who lost loved ones.

To homeschool or not to homeschool

To homeschool or not to homeschool has been a topic of conversation in our home since Eleanor was born in 2008. The inclination to homeschool has been on my heart even before that, but I figured the notion would be fleeting. I planned to work full-time, and neither Jon nor I were homeschooled. But, the best laid plans of mice and men often go astray, as the saying goes. The more I have seriously considered and lived with the idea of homeschooling, the more comfortable I am with our decision and the more I know it is the right decision for us.

Eleanor has always been a little crazy about her books and how they are organized. And OH! that pacifier. There was never a child who loved a pacifier more than Eleanor.

We have met some resistance from friends and family, but I think it's important to follow in the direction that we feel is best for our family. We've also had a lot of support from some, and that has been truly appreciated.

Why are we homeschooling, you might ask? We have several reasons, but those reasons do not include general dissatisfaction with public schools. My degree is in secondary education, and by all accounts, I should be teaching science. Jon and I also had very memorable public educations and harbor no ill-will toward it. Some of my best memories were made in school. I value school teachers. I value school as an institution. I happily support the public school system by paying my property taxes with a giving heart. We are not homeschooling because we are afraid. Given the current climate of school shootings and school violence, I think student safety is in the back of everyone's mind, but I refuse to make a choice to homeschool based on fear.

Instead, we are homeschooling because I want to personalize Eleanor's (and her siblings') education. I want to learn with her and help her develop her strengths and her interests. I also want to spend my days with my kids. I enjoy my kids as people (so far), and don't want the best of their days spent away from me. I am also drawn to the flexibility. I get to plan and dictate our days. We can take Fridays off, learn through the summer, visit a park or museum--whatever works best for us. And, I guess that's the bottom line. It's about what works best for us. I like that. If, at any point, it stops working for us, we will re-evaluate. It's that easy.

Her fuzzy head makes me a bit weepy. I loved her hair, and her intensity for anything new and exciting. She was a challenging toddler.

The biggest argument against homeschooling I hear is "what about socialization?" What about it? Those who ask that question really must not think much of our parenting, or know much about our schedule.  Teaching Eleanor social graces and making sure she has proper outlets to develop relationships with peers is always at the forefront of our parenting decisions. The beauty of homeschooling is I have a little more control over with whom and WHERE she socializes at this young and tender age. Even before school has started, Eleanor is involved. It's just her personality. She plays with kids her own age, she is involved in age-appropriate activities, and she is social. If you're comparing her or us to some idea of a stereotyped homeschooled child, I ask you to re-examine your stereotype and become more informed about homeschooling. If you still can't see that it really will be OK, that's fine. We can agree to disagree.

If you think homeschooling will make my kids weird, I ask you to consider that they might have been weird before we decided to homeschool :) I mean, most of my readers have met me. I'm a little weird. Jon is a little weird. It is only fitting that our children would be a bit weird regardless of where they go to school.

So, this is the why. More on the how I plan to implement homeschooling for our family to follow. 

My sweet, sweet girl.